Following a traumatic week with the Boston Marathon bombings, the West explosion, and Friday's manhunt for the bombing suspect, what do you tell your kids about all this?


  Noted children’s author Julia Cook, who is in San Antonio to talk to the National Reading Association conference, says the secret is not to lie to youngsters.


  "If you lie to your kids or make up facts, it will confuse them, and when they do learn the truth about what happened, you may have trust issues on your hands," she said.


  She says parents need to understand that kids today have access to on demand video and a lot more information, so it is not a good idea to fudge the truth, but there is a way to tell them the truth that will make a difference.


  "Some people are put on this planet to show the rest of us how not to be," she suggested.  "We can learn from this."


  She says it is critical for parents to remain calm and maintain family routines, because it is those routines which make children feel secure.


  She reminds parents of younger children to try to make sure their children don't see video of events like the bombings or the West explosion too many times, because kids don't understand the concept of recorded video and will think the incidents are happening all over the place.


  She says kids may ask you multiple times about the incidents.


  "You might also as a parent be asked to repeat your answers several times," she said.  "Be consistent in your answers and realize that this is your child's need to know."


  Cook has written several books designed to help children deal with tragedy.  Copies of her book' Grief is Like a Snowflake' were distributed to all of the families hurt by the school shooting in Newtown, Connecticut in December.